Finally another Friday, having rounded out a fully packed week. Transitioning from being a couple down to a single person, whether dating, partners, or married, takes a lot of time. We had friends or families we hung out with as a couple, and when one part of the equation is missing, the dynamics of relationships change. It can feel like another loss............
A segregation can occur, as if to naturally separate from what once was, to what has now become. I can only speak from our experience, but after talking to a ton of people on the subject, I know it is pretty common. Perhaps it may be a natural way of ushering us from one season to the next, the past to the future and preparation for a new found family unit. .
I know as I looked ahead in my new season, chances are, I will take part in the blending of families. I thought that would be the case when first dating after the death. I had looked forward to expanding, since I have an open heart and kids who are very accepting. We have all learned to be a bit more cautious, and I of course, learn from my mistakes.
And so, the rebuilding continues. New friends and expanded experiences are challenging, yet simple pleasures are what makes my heart happy. A fun Friday night at a local pizza place with a special someone is filling my heart with hope again. I have seen what hope deferred can do and it is so detrimental.
I ask myself why do we as women and men continue to stay in unhealthy relationships............... and there are many factors I will share. It is a delicate subject and one I will tread lightly in.
Senior pictures and Fitness photos are scheduled for tomorrow morning for two of my kids. The lawn needs mowing, deck staining, bill paying, and a few other things on the list. Our dog Benny seems so happy to be inside with us; however, he does need his second bath lol. I am looking at allotting my time in different ways for this new time. .
A season of multiplication has hit us, like a wave that swells and crashes on the shore. We are all learning how to ride it. Guess it's good we enjoyed those California waves while we could :)
"All your waves and breakers wash over me......"